Sunday, 31 January 2010

ReLaTiOnShIPs MiLeS aPaRt

I have been asked quite a few times of long distant relationships. Do they work? Why don’t they work out? Is it good? Everyone or maybe almost everyone must have experienced a long distant relationship at one point of their lifetime. Sometimes, they workout and sometimes they end up really messy. Distant relationships begin via online, emails, or elsewhere. They do have advantages and disadvantages. In terms of disadvantages, it is very frustrating that there is no hugging, no kissing and no intimacy at all. You will experience difficulties in connecting because you don’t have eye contact and can’t take walks or enjoy dinners out together. The main issue comes up when dealing with trust issues. On the other hand, for some, the distance can help to gradually open up to the relationship without the incessant presence of the partner. The romance stays kindled because you aren’t around the person 24/7 seeing various habits and routines that can get repetitive at times. Despite all this, the question here is can these relationships work?

To maintain such a relationship is not as easy as it may sound. You must believe in yourself and have more trust and less jealousy towards your partner. It’s alright to meet up times. And being in touch is really important. Avoid writing up long emails or mailing letters and stick to instant messaging or Skype. It works better with modern technology. And most important of all, be honest.

Long distant relationships are NOT EASY. And it has to be agreeable between both partners. In addition to relationships, you’ll need a lot of patience in distant ones. Its either “Distance makes your heart fonder” or “distance makes you forget”. You just need to try. On the other hand, its alright to experience such a relationship once in a life time if you haven’t.

Long distant relationships are not impossible; it’s just about being strong and believing in what you have.

1 comment:

kaidha said...

long distance is hard...but once u meet up after a long sure makes u forget all the all depends on the two people...if they are willing to make it work despite the distance...the miles, days does not count at alll